Barbara Marx Hubbard has some great things to say about the feminist principle and about women as leaders of the emerging paradigm shift to a world that works for all.  www.birth2012.com  and http://www.barbaramarxhubbard.com/site/node/16

I approached this “Vital Conversation” today with trepidation throughout the weekend because over the course of 61 years, no topic has provided more emotional disturbance, argumentation and fertile ground for self-exploration then balancing the notion of gender relations in a meaningful aware manner.

As a boy who parachuted into modernity through a powerful mother who taught me the meaningfulness of caring, nurturing, being empathetic, vulnerable and authentic emotional intelligence by taking effective actions in deviant behaviors. She was 100% German operating as a General never allowing any bullshit in the family my father even saluted her. I also intersected patriarchy by essentially being born into a Roman Catholic family and raised under the Franciscan spiritual habit for 12 years. The notion of egalitarian appreciative inquires and dialog circling in conversations was not even a possible possibility in this creation story. You were tested under questioning and there was only one answer in the course of the curriculum. The emotional contradiction is my mother ruled the rooster with five male cubs with an iron fist as a Beloved Matriarch while simultaneously she was the most dedicated Catholic woman in my life, while I, confronted as a boy the ruthlessness and contradictory evidence in her primary ideological belief system like a terrorist black sheep rebel refusing to adhere to any authority other than my own independent thinking. The double bind experienced nearly tore us apart in the 1960’s, she was hysterical, and by the time of her death in 2006 we were one in consciousness sharing the same being “eye to eye” in the oneness of our human heartfelt experience.  I find that a remarkable intimate story of engagement with the feminine that lives with me everyday.

I assess the breakdowns arising today in balancing the complexities in gender relations is the deepest shadow and most profound experience in our psyche. Looking to do it outside with a woman is getting more difficult by the moment for boys and men in my assessment. It appears stopping the war inside and ruling one’s own state and conducting behaviors is the real challenge in the moment. On one hand men in the past were expected to “bring home the bacon” “provide protective safety for the spouse, children and familial community” and “articulate some mysterious ordering of meaning in language as a brotherhood (boys, fathers and elders) between on another.” Today when patriarchy is expressed as constituting the host of breakdowns collapsing in our surrounding world as a gender male driven evil empire headed by Bush and Chenny, that has destroyed the feminine in the world, there is an emotional confrontation that threatens the historical roots of a sacred male's in the world who wanted to destroy both men.  And I can honestly report that men are sick, ill, suffering, looking for love and acceptance anywhere, and despairing like flies hitting a electronic holocaust in an attempt to love women. They are being rejected for a host of reasons; female warrior matriarchs for not getting it right, transcendental goddesses claiming superior divinity and yoga bodies to prove it, diva queens entitlement based on previous past cultural conditioning, and the real breakdown competing partners based in power of the purse at the kitchen table.   Never mind we are living in America driven by consumption and women do 70% of the purchasing.  Most men hate shopping.  

Where is the love, appreciation and clearing for learning to heal and become whole in our selves through one another?

I have a daughter 34 who thought I walked on water and a son 24 who knows better and serves as my executioner. Honestly I am confused as they are and wonder how we start over facing a WHOLE NEW DAY?

(((There I said it and I am prepared to die with the onslaught of feminist arrows that may be flung like political clean shots, failing to see, or understand, just how sensitive boys and men are in conversations of power in gender relations. Inside we cry all the time over the inability of never getting it right with anyone on the playground. Gender realization in living is a deep heart felt breakdown for all of us right now and in my assessment, not easy for either side. We all come from a womb and yet the boys have been required in the units of humanity to invent narratives and roles to protect, defend, acquire, care, feed and nourish children in a different manner than women. My father is my hero and still living at 90 years old.  He flew 45 missions in Operation Torch out of North Africa at the beginning of WWII, lost both ear drums and thank goodness he had a woman who love him even in the midst of all his stupidities as an incompetent boy in the family. Real feminists in my honest assessment have a natural caring empathy for sacred beings (children) and connect in every human heart as Homo sapiens amans not gender driven based roles, titles, and distinctions. My father is a great mother and my mother was a great father. We need both as sacred beings.)))

My own authentic take away today is I survived the initial vital conversation intact in my own notion of how important the sacred masculine has been in human history. Not only my own father, also, Crazy Horse, Gandhi, Martin, John, Bobby and Nelson and hosts of ancestors who have confronted the rough riding ownership elite mentality in western civilized Kings and Queens and Church. I see the possible possibility of formulating a new partnership in gender balanced appreciative inquire and dialog in sacred circles as Homo sapiens amans; wise sing up social loving animals recovering our partnership in the solidarity of “The Chalice and The Blade” where no one is authorized to use transcendental ontological past distinctions of indoctrinated political or religious belief systems as a cultural mechanism for political power in designing a future world together.

I observe in my political adult life in America that gender distinctions of male versus female have ripped our society apart and we are now bleeding to death watching porn while children of the future are being ignored as virtual fragile narratives in a ruthless educational wrongheadedness. We in our cafe have started to invent an appreciative manner of communicating using a new integral languaging of common distinctions called “Appreciative Dignified Conversations.”

The question of who comes first "the rooster, hen or egg" is meaningless chatter now. The fact is the rooster, hen and egg constitute a unity transcending all the particular distinctions in narratives. As Homo sapiens amans I submit we are constituted in love (in the presence of one another we genetically desire the experience of legitimacy in coexistence for one another = friendship) and this is where we begin to co-create a trans~formative solidarity in the Next Big Game!

I have gained an appreciation for Wendell Fitzgerald’s notion of “Occupy Earth” the most in these dialogs thus far. As he shared today what we are missing in communicating the declaration of human rights, political nonsensical discourses, economic statistics of bankers and UN policies equality is we don’t own shit and the bankers own everything and its going to hell in the next few moments. I invite you to consider that the patriarchy distinction is genderless and is an “observer error” operating in the “global cultural matrix” based in the ownership of land, discourses, institutions and dualistic emotional contradictory patterns corporate media plays like a violin and we buy into it hook, line and sinker, wrapped up holy books and patriotic bullshit that is never questioned. Wendell’s suggestion of “Occupying Earth” breaks through the problem and double binds of political power by declaring that every Homo sapiens amans has a right to being on earth and owning one’s existence as a proprietor living in a dignified manner of legitimacy in coexistence in the web of life.

That’s an inspired notion that strikes me like a lightening bolt inside~out! I suggest reframing all these subset political creative collapsing opportunities to “Occupy Earth” inspires a new integral natural circling language that is already always present in every unit of humanity and passionately desired in real time pure play heart felt experience yesterday, today and tomorrow. I vote for a new integral communicating process that unearth's this western intellectual machine based in wholeness and serving all peoples; not any specific class or distinctive ideological point of view. One thing is for certain “owning what owns us in our humanness~love” is radically different than any thing we have experienced in human history; looking back makes even the strongest among us cry like a baby. I invite us to consider we need a new blank canvas that inspires solidarity instantaneously for as offered in the conversation today, time has run out! Thank you for hearing my voice as a participant of this sacred circle!

I'm excited we will be continuing to get into this topic this coming Monday July 2nd at 8am PST (11am Eastern time)  in conjunction with the Occupy National Gathering!   Invite your friends!